We all have our morals, our point-of-views and our framework for living our lives.
And while we like to think these schemas are fluid, we also all have our “no contest,” “not happening” breaking points.
The problem is, when we let our stubbornness seep into our relationships, we’re not allowing for other partners (who likely have our best interests) to infiltrate their opinions and make us better people.
We’re forever stuck in our ways without the growth another companion offers.
Although we like to think “it’s them, it’s not me” is the reasoning we’re alone, there comes a time where we have to take an honest look at ourselves and ask if it’s the world or if it’s us against the world.
Until you can learn to love and embrace your faults, you won’t be able to appreciate the beauty in others’. Here are the 12 reasons your stubborn attitude won’t find you love.
If you can’t budge on your side, all of those things will become much harder. It’s kind of like the penny jar — give some and take some and it all evens out in the end.
Don’t automatically shut down suggestions to try the new Indian restaurant or tapas cooking class. You’ll be missing out on opportunities that connect you two closer.
In fact, having a mental list is detrimental to begin with — you’ll always find a fault. No one can live up to it 100 percent of the time.
When you care more about being right than you do consideration for someone else, you’ll find that the only person you can tolerate is yourself. It’s not always about being right, but rather, doing the right thing.
You can’t have everything your way (despite what Burger King would like to tell you). Remember, there’s something special in being introduced to someone else’s world.
There’s no satisfaction in winning if that means you’ve lost someone else.
Making plans should be an exciting activity you do together, not a constant battle of trying to please you. Take a step outside of your own needs and find out what your relationship needs.
When you take on that kind of obstinate attitude, you have a hard time understanding and owning your own mistakes. Would you really rather be alone than be wrong?
But when you refuse to admit your true feelings or put yourself out there, you end up getting burned. Bottling it all up doesn’t hurt anyone but yourself.
When it comes to crashing, it’s important you spend an equal amount of time each other’s place or else your partner will start to resent always going to you.
The quickest way to push someone away is by not meeting that person halfway there.
Before making work for someone else, work on yourself. You’ll find it’s easy to open your heart to someone else if you open your mind first.