Avoiding them might change your whole life.When I first tapped into personal development, I tried to build as many positive habits as possible.
I set up a morning routine, started to meditate, went to the gym frequently, and read at least one book per week. Yet, a year later, I didn’t feel happier, more fulfilled, or improved. And I didn’t understand why my life didn’t change even though I built all these new, powerful routines.Change your habits and you’ll change your life is one of the bold promises of the self-help world and I didn’t know why it didn’t work for me. But it’s true: Your routines can change your life. Yet what I overlooked is that those good routines aren’t worth much if you don’t let go of your negative habits first.
Quite often, it’s our little, harmful routines that break our success, not the lack of good ones. The following habits are certainly not easy to give up, but once you let go of them, you won’t only feel relieved but also much more energized in your daily life.
According to Malcolm Gladwell, we make all our choices in the blink of an eye. Yet, we are not aware of it and want to have a logical reason. That’s why we over-complicate most of our decisions.
In his book Blink, Gladwell explains how all our decisions are based on our intuition. We don’t make the right decisions by thinking logically, we just try to find arguments for decisions we already made based on our gut feeling.
But life is so much easier and fun if you go with the flow, allow yourself to make mistakes, and correct your course on the way. Spending time to think about problems or decisions might sound smart, but it isn’t. Most people are overthinking everyday situations and end up spending hours and hours without producing results.
Why not be the one who suggests where to go and what to do when hanging out with your friends instead of saying, “I don’t know.” or “I don’t care.”?
Try to take control of the small things in your life. Give your best to make the unimportant decisions as quickly as possible.
The bad news is that you’ll never be able to satisfy everybody. The good news, however, is that it doesn’t matter. You have one life and you don’t need to waste it by living up to the standards of others.
But the truth is that weekends are just a small part of your life. You can’t be unhappy from Monday to Friday and expect the weekend to compensate for these negative feelings. A week is a great period to set small, realistic goals and track your progress. And if you like what you do, each Monday is a new opportunity to create an amazing week.
If you live a life you love, you’ll appreciate each day as an opportunity to share your gift with the world. Stop blaming Monday and identify the part of your life you really hate. That’s the only way to eliminate it and create a week and life you truly enjoy.
Even the fact that you are reading this article right now indicates that you are among the wealthier, more privileged people of the world. Life is changing faster than ever before and we might be facing new challenges every single day. That’s why the most adaptable people will always win in the long run.
Most of us grow up being taught to play it safe, get a well-paid job, build security, and avoid changes. Yet, change can also mean improvement. Every challenge in your life will help you to improve and become a better version of yourself. Be courageous, keep your eyes on the positive aspects, and try new things.
And if it still gets too scary, ask yourself the following question: What’s the worst thing that can happen? Quite often, you’ll realize that the worst thing isn’t that bad.
If you can’t say no to the wrong things, you won’t be able to say hell yeah to the projects, people, and opportunities that truly excite you.
The first step, however, is to know what you are actually aiming for. You need to be aware of your life purpose, your goals, and your priorities. Once you know your priorities and the things you want to achieve, you will waste less time on the wishes of others.
Yet the harsh truth is that overspending will not only ruin you financially, but it’ll also harm other areas of your life. You can’t increase the quality of your life if you always live paycheck to paycheck and are surrounded by stuff you don’t need.
When these situations occur, you’ll be glad to have a safety net instead of waiting for your next payment.
Instead of thinking about your past mistakes or fearing the future, try to be fully present right now. Because now is to only time you can influence and change. You can’t change anything about the past, and you can’t determine your future. But you can give your very best to enjoy every moment and live intentionally.
Journaling, for example, is an excellent method to be more present and focus on the given moment. By writing down what you’re grateful for and what you feel at any given moment, you’ll learn to be more present and listen to your inner self.
- “You’re too fat.”
- “You’re ugly.”
- “You can’t do that.”
- “You aren’t worth it.”
Would you enjoy the company of that friend? You probably wouldn’t.
Yet, too often, we are this friend ourselves. Most people are professionals in talking themselves down. But your relationship with yourself is the most important one. You are the only person who’ll be with you forever.
So make sure to get on well with yourself and be your own cheerleader instead of your own critic.
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