“Romance is overrated.” – Absolutely no woman ever
I don’t care if you’re in the fresh puppy love stage of your relationship or married for ten years with little carbon copies of yourselves running around the house. If there’s one thing I know about women — which I know a lot since I am one — it’s that we all love romance.
But here’s the thing, romance isn’t just what you see in the movies. You don’t have to run through the airport to profess your love or hold a boom box outside her window. You can skip out on the field full of daffodils.
When in a healthy state of mind and with the right intentions, all women want to know if you care for them. Just like I’m sure you’d agree you want from them, as well.
As someone whose partner isn’t naturally romantically inclined, I know this aspect of relationships isn’t easy for everyone. I’ve helped guide my partner through this new experience, so we can both show love how each other wants.
And to his surprise, and hopefully yours, it’s the smaller gestures that matter most. So take all that pressure off yourselves; romance is a lot easier than you think. Little gestures will go a long way.
And I get it; PDA isn’t everyone’s thing. It’s far from my boyfriend’s as well. Hand holding can be that perfect in-between for a partner who isn’t bothered by showing love in public and a partner who is.
Plus, if one of your love languages is physical touch, hand-holding fulfills that need for skin-to-skin contact.
Remembering details of important events will catch your lover by surprise. I’m sure she doesn’t expect you to know about her mom’s birthday or the anniversary of the day she started her business. So when you mention it a week before, you’ll be scoring some major romance points.
And of course, if you don’t know these specific dates, don’t be afraid to ask.
So why not ease that stress for your partner by making plans that involve her friends, too?
By doing this, you’re letting her know you accept all aspects of her life. Plus, it’ll give you a chance to bond with the people closest to her as well. Simply make plans to do something fun, like a beach day or night out bowling, and let her know you want her friends to come, too.
If expressing feelings is hard for you, practice in the mirror. Write your thoughts down on a piece of paper. Take baby steps when practicing vulnerability with your partner.
Relaying your feelings to your lover will be a breath of fresh air. Women want to know how you feel about them. Don’t assume they already know.
Of course, I’m not saying you have to send those kinds of texts every thirty minutes. Nor am I saying that every woman will like this kind of gesture. But what I am saying is that it’s worth a try if you’re looking to be more romantic.
Because, if a woman likes you, chances are you’re crossing her mind throughout the day. It’s nice to know that feeling is mutual.
When you create a comfortable space for your partner to open up and show that you care, that means the world to her. To this day, the fact that my boyfriend did that is one thing I quickly think of that sets him apart from the people I dated in my past.
Your surprise can be your partner’s favorite baked goods or flowers you picked for her on your way home from work. My point is that surprises don’t have to be big and grandiose to be considered romantic.
Choose something that’s a bit more realistic for you to do sporadically and one that’s not going to break the bank for you every time you do.
By validating your partner’s feelings, you’re showing that you care about what she experiences.
An example of this could be when she comes home and tells you how stressful her day was. A validating reply would be, “that sounds really hard, and it makes sense that you’re stressed out. I would be, too.”
You may think this is a silly gesture to add to this list, but this ties in the theme for the entire article: small moments matter more than big ones. Relationships thrive off everyday interactions, not once every three months’ grand plans.
So yes, letting your partner have something you want — just from time to time, of course — is very romantic.
Romance isn’t this scary thing that needs to be complicated. While that might be how movies and books portray it, real-life works a bit differently. Small gestures can go a very long way.
So give these tips a try and add a little romance into your relationships. Also, don’t be afraid to ask your partner to do these more for you, too. After all, romance isn’t reserved exclusively for women.